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About susannekatchko18

I'm a singer, teacher and linguist. OK, I make visual art, too, but it's basically another expression of those first three occupations I listed. I make inspirational products in different languages, with a lot of Judaica in there at Am building an American-English pronunciation coaching practice, Love learning new things, except do not yet love learning technology, which is a great door to new things. Hope to be able to change this element of my bio. I've done a bit of performing and writing and enjoy these very much. At this point in my life, I'm aiming directly for financial security. Diary of Time in the Corridor is my chronicle of progress attaining meaningful prosperity in every area -- personal, artistic, financial, relational. Let's watch the picture take shape together. Thanks for reading.

Moana, Walking

Moana, the Disney Hawaiian warrior-princess, is bobbing along the sidewalk.

The mini-person ahead of me, a little girl of about four years old, has no idea that her very act of carrying a Moana umbrella is creating a symphony of joy in her Jewish, can’t-believe-she’s-nearly-a-senior-citizen neighbor.  (This senior-citizen thing just cannot be:  I’ve never been happier, cuter or more alive.  Youth is truly wasted on the young!)

Later this rainy day, I see a Mom and her two daughters walking and she’s carrying her daughter’s Moana backpack.

moana walking

I ask her if she’s Dominican (she is, very assimilated – with accent-less English) and then ask if Moana has special attraction to island people because she’s native.  The mom says, “Yes.”  Dominicans own their mixed-race heritage, which includes, next to African and Spanish, native Taino heritage.  This never ever occurred to me!  After five years of living in a Dominican neighborhood, I’ve just now realized the deep identification of Caribbean islanders with their native ancestry.

I tell people I live in the Dominican Republic.  They get all interested and flustered and then I clarify that it just feels like the D.R.  Here in Bedford Park, the Bronx, almost everyone speaks Spanish.  One day I met a Holocaust survivor, Chana, a few blocks away.  I spoke to her in Yiddish.  She was from Poland and told me about her beautiful sister who, of course, died.  Last I heard, her son was (finally!) moving her down to Florida.  She had to be in her mid-90’s. I’m one of the few Jews here.  Evergreen Kosher Market in Monsey won’t deliver to me because I don’t live in Riverdale.  So, I content myself with Fresh Direct, who have awesome Meal Mart lamb chops!

Here, in the virtual Dominican Republic of Bedford Park, Bronx, NY, I’m considered white.  It’s weird.  I feel it.  It feels like I have a somewhat exalted status.  People seem relieved and pleased when I pay attention to them, flattered, even, when I’m kind and friendly.  I do speak nearly-fluent Spanish, with a good accent, so that makes conversation easy.  I’m not whitey staring at them like aliens, I’m someone asking them a question, or answering one, in their language, sharing a human experience.

I am privileged.  English is my native language.  It is MUCH easier for me to get along in the U.S.  I know it’s beyond that – I “read” as a middle-class, educated person, never mind that what I did for four years in undergrad had little to do with formal education.  I hope and pray to make up for that, now.

Also, notwithstanding the Jewish experience of profound rejection and abuse by white neighbors, as well as by our fellow Semites in the Moslem world, I am white.  My skin is white.

I was never aware of what it means to walk this world with dark skin. My black friends think in terms of gradations of skin color.  To me, black people are black, all of them.  I was so surprised when my Dominican colleague referred to an East Indian friend as having “darker skin” than he.

The Afro-Caribbean is Afro-Caribbean to me.  The East Indian guy is East Indian.  I never think about the color of the skin of an East Indian.  I hear from Dominicans that the D.R. is a place of great racism, where citizens with more obvious African ancestry experience disadvantages, just like here.  Now, I understand better the hyper-awareness of subtle skin-color differences expressed by my dark-skinned Dominican friend.

It feels strange to be considered “white,” when our white, Christian neighbors in Eastern Europe considered us “other” after over one thousand years of side-by-side living.  Why shouldn’t they have?  They were indoctrinated since toddlerhood in the calumny of our guilt for the death of their Lord.  How could literate people believe that the Roman murder of Jews for sport was caused by the Jews?  I will never understand how this obvious disconnect persisted through millennia.  The great Pope John XXIII finally drafted an edict (published and watered down in 1965 by Pope Paul VI, apologist for Holocaust-enabling Pope Pius XII) absolving us of the crime, but much of the world still hasn’t gotten the memo.

Talking about anti-Semitism is just too easy.  I mean, we’re right and they’re wrong, right?  Even the most virulent anti-Zionists say it’s wrong to murder Jews.  Well, maybe the Jews’ national liberation movement aka Zionism is the only one in the world considered illegitimate, an epithet in far-leftist circles.  But, anti-Semitism?  It’s, like, uncool, man.

But it is getting cool again in the U.S. heartland and elsewhere. In October 2016, I was standing by some police near Penn Station during some sort of demonstration for the Republican presidential candidate.  A young white man approached us and asked the officers, “Is there anything illegal about shouting that we don’t want homosexuals or Jews to vote for Donald Trump?” The officer assured him it was not and he sprinted away to sing his song of hatred.

I was there.  I sooooo regretted that I didn’t catch that young man’s eye and say, “Hey, I’m a Jew! I’m pretty awesome, right?”  I wanted to use my super-power of being female to cause his poisonous thoughts to short-circuit to his you-know-what and spurt their way out.  I know, hindsight — especially of someone who was unfortunately about 99% hind.  Not by birth, mind you.  Just by training, poor wuss.  Poor, world-changing wuss, whose vote, along with enough votes from his Neanderthal brethren and sisteren, dwarfed the stagnant power of one hundred million voters who stayed home on November 8, 2016.  And don’t get me started about elites who voted for third-party candidates.

Back in my Bedford Park vecindario (neighborhood), despite having heavy accents and sometimes limited-to-no English, my neighbors here own cars and pay rents and clothe themselves and their children, educating the latter in private parochial schools. Native-speaking Americans with bad grammar and spelling also have these things and own homes and have jobs with great benefits.

I, with my excellent grammar and spelling, am just now building a life.  But that’s OK.  If you knew where I came from, you’d celebrate my life with me!  Let’s!

I guess, that’s what this blog is about.  It’s called, “Diary of Time in the Corridor” because I am aware that I am in the corridor, financially and professionally.  That is because I’m a bit of a late bloomer.

And the funny thing is, I’m pretty sure I will attain not just middle-class financial wellbeing, but actual wealth.  The goods and services I provide are worthwhile.  If I keep developing them and don’t keep them the secrets they currently basically are, things should work out fine.

Living here in the Dominican Republic is a true emotional roller-coaster.  I’m told there are other neighborhoods where people don’t pick up after their dogs, and I did once have to squelch a shrieking fit in Washington Heights where the same apathy was evident.  How surprised was I to hear from someone who fled the Upper West Side that her neighbors of my Jewish ethnic group were just as thoughtless and ignorant.  One of my congregants told me that when she lived in Riverdale, she had the same problem:  Riverdale!!

I am angry with people who don’t pick up after their dogs.  I am angrier at the parents who don’t know to teach their children to be good neighbors that way.  That’s why I keep nattering on about starting a project involving our Bronx borough president, Ruben Diaz, to teach children in school about how cooooool it is to be a great neighbor, and then have them go home and rub their new knowledge in their parents’ faces (so to speak).

So, that’s the one main low, but here are some of the highs here, in Bedford Park, the Bronx, New York:

There is a pair of twin girls of about eight or nine in my building.  I’ve known them for five years.  Whenever they see me, without a word, they just hug me.  They probably do this to everyone else, but I like to think I have a special energy that invites goodness.  I’m in remission from my primary addiction, now, for almost eleven years (2/3/08), but once, during a relapse, I passed a parked car with children and a dog in the back seat and they all snarled at me.  They did.  I know there is energetic communication.

Anyway, these gorgeous Puerto Rican girls hug me and drop a smoke bomb of love into my life every time they do.

There are almost no Puerto Ricans left in this neighborhood.  We’re mostly Dominican, with some Albanians, here.  Most of the other white people are old Irish women or toothless, obese smoker-alcoholics.  It’s depressing.  This is where I live.  I live here because I can barely pay the rents which are considered to be outrageous bargains in NYC.  Over $1,000 per month for a huge one bedroom with wood floors.  I know.  But you have to make $50K to comfortably pay $1,000+ per month.  And that’s net.  The net of a $50K income is probably $32K after taxes, if you’re lucky — since non-millionaires pay 30% of their income to taxes and millionaires pay none.  What the bleep?  How is this neighborhood considered “working class”?  You have to have serious scratch to live here!

Sometimes, I’m so charmed by living here I could burst.  When I go to the supermarket, the guy who takes my packages for safekeeping calls me “Mi Reina.”  That means “My Queen!!”  This is de rigeur here, from women and men.  “Mi Reina, Mami, Doña (Madame), Mi Amor (My Love), Preciosa (Precious), Mi Vida (My Life – yes!)” – from utter strangers who get that The Family of Man is a real family.

When I had bed bugs in October, I went to our 24-hour supermarket at 3 AM to buy rubbing alcohol to spray on the f-ers till the exterminator could come for his appointment.  There were no spray bottles for sale in the store.  The manager combed the store and found one they were using, washed it out, gave it to me and refused money for it.  Typical.  Typical Bedford Park Little D.R.  He probably referred to me as “Doña” when he did it.

I’m in love with my life.  Thank you for having a look at it with me.  I want people to be with me in the corridor, so that when and as the doors open – and they are opening – you can also see how G-d was with me every second, bringing glorious people and experiences into my world, at the same time as holding me when stuff got hard.  I want you to know that that neighbor who’s fallen on hard times may just scrape herself up, stand tall and be a living example that tides turn and people rise.


Breathing in the Corridor

Whoa — this is really the corridor, here.  That meeting I was to have about Happy Notes with a major industry figure had to be postponed.  I was really sick with bronchitis — got it the day after I wrote the last blog here, too — and I think money pressures were a factor in my immune system leaving its guard post.  So, it’s slated for “the week of May 19.”

How to breathe between now and then?  The intermediary who set up the meeting says, “Get ready.”  He explains that he’s not talking about material demonstrations — doing a printing of my newest designs, for instance.  He means, just be ready to be you.  Be ready to express your vision of your company and know what you have.  Be ready to be sure that what G-d has given you is good, is enough, is worthwhile.  It’s better than worthwhile.  It’s a good addition to this world — positive sayings in different languages, basically saying “I love you” to every culture that’s represented.

I’m in Swampscott, Massachusetts, right now (I live in the Bronx).  A couple of days ago, in a Staples parking lot, a guy pulls up next to me.  I don’t remember how we got talking, but he had an Arabic accent and a clear air of worldliness — we might call it “a continental air.”  (It turned out he’s been in the U.S. for fifteen years and owns several businesses.)  I knew he was Arab, but didn’t want him to know I could discern his faint accent so easily.  I say something about non-Americans being so elegant.  He replies with some incredibly lyrical Arabic saying in English translation.  I tell him about my business and how I need that saying and others in Arabic.  He readily agrees to send me a PDF of the saying, and seems thrilled to see his culture and language appreciated.   It’s Boston Marathon time, and the memories of the Tarnaev brothers’ demonic expression of misdirected Islamic pride are everywhere.

I tell him I’m his cousin, in Arabic.  I learned how to say that because all the bodegas in my Northwest Bronx neighborhood are owned by Yemenite Arabs, and I want them to know that I know we’re family.  (Jews and Arabs are all grandchildren of Abraham:  Jews, children of Isaac and Arabs, children of Ismail/Ishmael.)  I kind of push love on them and they send it right back.  One of them, Abdul, sends me Youtube videos of Yemenite Jewish singers, and his daughter found a kid’s song called, “Ya, Suzan.”  See?  My name in Arabic!

The power of mutual appreciation is transformative.  Is it enough?  No.  Is it a lot?  Yes.

This parking-lot guy, Balsam, says he’s from Jerusalem.  He’s born and raised in Jordan, but is Palestinian.  Who knows better than a Jew what it’s like to call a place you’ve never visited “home”?

Our chat is rushed because I need to be someplace, but while we’re chatting, his friend, Gassam, calls.  Balsam crows, “This is my friend, Gassam.  He’s Palestinian, too, and he speaks Hebrew!”  Gassam and I swap Hebrew, and I’m blindsided by a colloquial Israeli greeting I’m not used to hearing (“Mah ha-matzav?”  “What’s the situation?”  Like, “Wha’ssup?”).  Sublime — smiles all around.

I just realized that this kiss from the Universe can help me breathe until “the week of May 19.”  That meeting will either start my business or not.  But, it’s my job to trust that if good is to come from Happy Notes, it will flow inevitably, over rocks and sand, grass growing in sidewalk cracks.  It will be born if it’s meant to be here.

The corridor is its gestation place — its womb.  It’s the place that teaches me to keep breathing, in the dark, in the quiet.

My corridor is lined with windows which open.  The breeze is warm and smells of plumeria, a really fragrant flower I fell in love with in Hawaii.  There will be other corridors after this one, dark places where negatives develop into glorious sights.  If I can remember to breathe, maybe they won’t be such bad places, after all.

The Dirtiest Word

Money:  soooo dirty.  Shameful.  Don’t talk about it.  G-d forbid, don’t imply you want any.

People might think you want it from them.

Now, I make a product that helps people.  It adds peace to the world — a multi-cultural, multi-lingual, feel-good product:  positive sayings in different languages, right?  I mean, it’s not crack, or something:  it’s good.  It’s loving.

Here’s a reaction to Blog No. 1 of Diary of Time in the Corridor from an email sent me by a 12-step fellowship person whom I know from, well, 12-step fellowships:

I enjoyed your blog.  It seems like it’s about selling your product as well as sharing your process.  I guess that’s what blogs are meant for.
Is it me, or did you also detect just a tad bit of accusation of the acrid scent of mercantile energy?  “You want me to buy something, don’t you?”

Was I affected by the above reaction?  Oh, yeah.  It was my worst fear:   If I talk about my business, people will think I am trying to sell them something (either the products themselves or the possibility of investing in it).

Work, commerce, these are potentially noble things.  The Talmud says, “Without bread, there is no Torah (sacred learning).”  (The Talmud continues on to say the converse, too:  “Without Torah, there is no bread.”)  It’s the implication that this blog is an indirect sales pitch that was concerning.  Can we talk about selling things without selling them?  (Can we talk about surgery without performing it?)

I did include a photo in the last blog:

— serendipitously, one that spreads the message:  “Don’t give up five minutes before the miracle.”  I was illustrating an anecdote about its order.  By the way — order delivered and customer very happy!I cannot deny that I love the idea of people learning about what I do.  But, I’m aiming for wholesale, not individual retail customers, and am building the infrastructure to do that.    (Full disclosure:  I have an etsy site but it’s mainly for display.  It’s

Do I need an investor to do wholesale?  Yes.  Would I cringe if a blog-reader sought to investigate cashing in on my little seedling of a company?  No.

However, I have a meeting coming up on March 4 that may result in Happy Notes having a real sponsor — possibly being an imprint of a large company.

Or not.

Who knows?

The whole point of this blog is to serve as a witness to a time of transition in my life, from:

a) scraping for money and having some good ideas, to:

b) having the bleepin’ courage to create something that works and lasts and provides prosperity for me and others.

Can’t say I haven’t been somewhat gleefully encouraged by this little factoid:

food stamps to billionaire

I want you along for the ride as I make dumb mistakes and smart choices and watch my life change, somehow.

It’s my assurance that things are about to change for the better that may have sounded like a sales ploy to that 12-step person.

I get it, I do.  Or it may have sounded like whistling in the dark.

Here’s the spiritual rub:  While I believe it is very likely that Happy Notes will make it, I know that I don’t know everything, that I am not the Master of the Universe.  I know that a loving G-d has taken me places I never would have chosen, and for the best.

So, I don’t actually know what’s good for me or the planet.  I just have a feeling about Happy Notes.  And I’m inviting you along for the ride.  We’ve already seen one of my worst fears realized — being misunderstood — and here we are, continuing on!!

Have a great week.  The blogger friend whose blog inspired this one writes a post a week.  I’d like to aim for that.  Catch you soon.  Blessings to all — may you have a wonderful week in which you discover something about you or the world that lights you up.  Do it.

To soulful prosperity for all,

What Matters Most?

Hi, All.  Welcome to my blog.  I thought of the title a long time ago, and tonight’s the night to find this title a blog to call its own.

The title is an outgrowth of a saying that has brought comfort, encouragement and wry smiles to me over the years:

When one door closes, another opens — but it can be mighty cold in the corridor!

This blog is meant to invite you to be my companions in the corridor.  I actually predict great success for my business, but you’re coming along for the ride when I don’t yet have a major investor, i.e., significant operating funds, but I do have a lovely little garden of planted seeds, some of which are sprouting nicely!  Would you like to watch my garden grow? 🙂  Please come along with me!  We’ll have fun!

See, I have a company, Happy Notes Designs ( which makes inspirational bookmarks and magnets (and more) with positive sayings in different languages.  I believe that it will be successful.  I believe that it is unique and a blessing and bound to grow — with G-d’s help, to grow in a healthy way, with great values.  It’s a child I’d like to see become a fine adult.  I have a calm feeling that this is likely.

But the corridor can get drafty.  I just moved into a new apartment.  It’s not yet unpacked and set up because I’m waiting to paint it, first, and don’t yet have the funds.  Like that.  But I love this corridor of an un-set-up apartment.  It’s mine and it’s quiet and magical.  Yay!  It’s my job to keep moving forward till I can get it painted!

I want to lead off by addressing an urgent task on my plate, one the accomplishment of which will influence everything that comes after:   It’s something that is not officially connected with my business and not geared to selling anything or increasing my power, prestige or prosperity.

Yet, I know that this will accomplish all of the above, because it is asking me to attend to reciprocating a sweet act.  Doing so will help me grow in discipline, organization and willingness.  So, I love that the following is the most important thing I can do for my business, right now:

I found a child’s luggage tag in an airport and mailed it back to her.  I got back in the mail the most sweet, grateful, exuberant package from mother and daughter:  a lovely thank you card with inscriptions in the eight-year-old’s painstakingly-produced penmanship and a four-page hand-written letter from the mom.   They are Jehova’s Witnesses and seem to be living lives of goodness, centered around their church, family and making ends meet.

That joyful dispatch deserved  an equally thoughtful response, and I finally got to it.  It felt so great to mail my package back to them, and to include one of the bookmarks below for each of the three family members!                                                     Sagan bookmark Also, I have an order of those very same bookmarks, ready to mail to the lovely customer who requested and paid for them.  I notice that the urgency to complete an order is not as great as that of wanting to generate one, sometimes.  This order goes out tomorrow, please G-d.

This whole process of growing a start-up involves my deciding on priorities and then making sure to accomplish them.  So, getting back to this sweet Mom and daughter, in a timely manner, is my priority.  I need to be a voiler mensch (Yiddish, for “fine person”) to grow the kind of business and life I have wanted.

Thanks for reading Post No. 1!!  Blessings to all who read this.